⚖️ Finding Balance : Lifestyle vs Content ⚖️ You can do bot..

⚖️ Finding Balance : Lifestyle vs Content ⚖️ You can do both Drew here. As Elena is completely wiped out from work and editing some new vids for you to enjoy (and wow they are hot) it seems we’re in the midst of an existential crisis that those in the lifestyle , (particularly those in the lifestyle that also make content) are faced with ohhhh every few days it seems You come to this page not just for the incredible content (and who wouldn’t want to see pics and vids of the sexiest woman on the planet) but for the realness , the truth and transparency of our lives and the lifestyle. She doesn’t shy away from it and neither to do . My perspective is much different from hers , however , as I’ve always been turned on by the visual and the action. Watching her get ready for play dates, helping clasp her necklace or zip up her dress and of course watching the action unfold. Whether I am an active participant or not in the date to follow I enjoy watching her pleased the most Elena, as the person willingly giving her body to another understandably needs a bit more too it than that . A connection is essential . Fucking without passion or connection doesn’t work. She doesn’t enjoy it . I don’t enjoy watching and certainly people who view her content don’t enjoy it as much. The question is then what is the connection and what is real and what is just content ? Her trip to Miami and Tampa served a few purposes for example . She needed and deserved time away from work and the house and the responsibilities. She wanted and deserved to have fun. There were play dates set up and there was content she could make . If I’m being completely transparent I will say that for the most part the vids and PPV from Miami did not sell nearly as well as other ones even though she looked stunning as always, the views were much better than our local hotel romps and the fucking was great. I really think a lot has to do with the perception that those particular dates/ vids were made for content rather than connection . I’ll go further to say that a poorly lit , average hotel where I’m in the room and she’s on date number 3 or 4 with the same person will be much better received than Miami which looks better edited, lit and shot and the sex was just as hot. The interesting thing is though, the Miami stuff wasn’t ‘just’ content in the traditional way of thinking . She wasn’t playing with anyone she didn’t vibe with. She spoke to and vetted her play partners before arriving just as we always do and she made the decision to ‘collab’ based on the connection she was feeling . There were a few gentlemen she played with that repeated later in the trip cameras off. From the outside it could look like that was just a content shoot to have something to post and while it did offer a lot of content it wasn’t an emotionless , empty performance for the sake of filling space on the page But I digress . Elena talks often about the boyfriend experience. Someone to take her out, have a drink or dinner before or after playing . To hang out and chill. To be more than just about the few hours in bed . My response to her always is ‘that’s so boring’ and I’m only half joking. It’s the biggest area where we possibly differ . It’s important for her to be wanted and appreciated for more than sex and more than content but yeah , as the Hotwife husband who gets off on this lifestyle for sex, small talk and a beer while dining on chicken wings isn’t that much of a thrill . But I completely understand the reason behind it and respect it At the end of the day my rule has been that I want her partners to be amazing at sex, experienced in the lifestyle (with proof in the form of reviews) who treat her with respect and aren’t going to be one and dones who just use her to get off or even worse for some internet clout which is always the danger when ‘collabing’ . Playing with men and women who are in the lifestyle and also have OF has reduced the amount of fakes and flakes to almost zero while increasing the quality of the sex by a huge margin . We’ve also been very fortunate because almost all of those collabs have been regulars . I mean we always tell people we want more than a one time thing and everyone always says they want the same but words and actions sometimes don’t mesh . But for us we have been lucky . Even some of her partners out of state or who literally need to fly in have come back over and over and that’s what we want . Going across the county to get with a big name creator for one night of sex (which may be fine) holds no interest because odds are we won’t ever see them again . The trip to Miami and more recently Tampa are vastly different . As a fan you may not see the subtle difference between them but Florida is like a second home. Most of her FLA folks have become regulars with only distance making frequent repeats more occurring. Even then some have flown up here to see her again. And she’ll be back there soon enough for more . With content creators there’s also the risk of their online persona completely ruining their real life personality. It should be the opposite right ? People put on their best face online then the ugly truth occurs in real life ? We are extremely fortunate to have had wonderful experiences with people we played with . No drama, rudeness or any of that . BUT more than once the sweet respectful lover in bed and in phone calls has to sell to their audience so we see a clip of Elena or another woman with a caption about how ‘I used this Slut in front of her silly cuck’ or ‘used this pussy good’ or some other nonsense . We understand it’s for show but it’s still not the image she wanted presented of herself . It’s something I’ve paid attention to when people have reached out to play . If their image online is something crass or disrespectful then it’s not something we want to move forward with . On the flip side it’s becoming increasingly difficult to find reliable lifestyle partners who don’t make content. I go through a lot of messages in a given week of men and women wanting to play . Sometimes I politely decline right away. Other times I sense they’re full of it and will indulge for a bit to amuse myself . More often than not it goes no where . It’s a lot of talk and a lot of promises and a lot of requests for Sexting or pics or her but no effort is made to make it happen . It’s part of the reason I require several good reviews from other couples before considering anyone for us. There is nothing worse than seeing my wife excited for an upcoming play date and then the person cancels at the last minute or worse - disappears completely the day of or before . Content creators don’t flake . It’s not good business for them to do so . So we have to weigh do we want the sure thing who may or may not be a regular and may or may not post a crude message about our date or take a chance on a lifestyle non creator who tend to never make the effort to play or feel getting a hotel to play in is like asking for a kidney The answer , simply , is she deserves both . Reliable , experienced lifestyle people who treat her with respect , give back what she gives to them and is a regular partner who likes to have a good time with an amazing person and likes filming . WE have been very lucky in most respects over the past 3 years of finding amazing people over all. There’s actually only one person we saw where it was clear I misjudged the vibe and their intent was more to use Elena as a number so the footage was deleted . It was evident in the sex that there was no chemistry . It wasn’t some nightmare experience but it wasn’t what we like and then having seen more of their personality after the fact we decided screw it, we aren’t going to show people this or let them use it for clout either . If it doesn’t look right . If it doesn’t feel right then we aren’t going to post it . And if we pick up the same vibes prior to the date then we just simply cancel . At the end of the day it’s about her enjoyment and our enjoyment of the lifestyle . It doesn’t matter if they are content creators who collab or someone off a lifestyle site or swing club who’s good with filming. It has to be the right person. She’s not looking to be a number or clout . She’s not looking for an inexperienced person who won’t perform. And she isn’t looking to be forgotten about after the play date. The effort and attitude AFTER the date should be as strong as the chase prior . She without a doubt deserves nothing less It’s about balance