This is going to be a little bit different. I guess it was b..

This is going to be a little bit different. I guess it was bound to happen one day, but unfortunately, I got sick. I've been fighting it a few days, but it seems it finally got the upper hand. Well, don't worry I'll be fine hopefully soon enough, but I had to cancel any plans I had for the weekend. Next week I was supposed to see Luke either on Tuesday or Wednesday, but It remains to be seen, because it's possible I'll be still down. Yeah, end of the semester can be lovely like that 😄 First, to give you all something in the meantime I've searched through my drive and found a mixture of unpublished pictures I took mostly behind or after the scenes. It's an assorted mix, you'll have to make your own story to them 🤭 Anyway, since I can't shoot. I've decided to use the opportunity to talk about something different, as it's something I've been asked a few times. And that's aftercare. In my posts, I usually focus on the hot stuff. After all, that's the main thing we are all about. 😄But it's also important to remember that we are all humans, with frustrations and emotions, that need to be handled carefully. I like aftercare even in normal vanilla sex, even though I probably would call it differently. It's a time to unwind and get back from the high, back to reality. It's time to reflect on what happened and perhaps where to steer the session next time. But most importantly it's time to feel safe and connected to somebody. At least for us. 😊 With Luke being my friend it makes things a little different. Because unlike lovers, who would probably express their love after the scene and reassure each other about their feelings, we need to take a little different approach. Since a lot of our play is essentially fetishizing friendzone, tease and denial, and pussyfree play, expressing love would be confusing and dishonest. My role as Domme is to help to ease into the normal life, life where we really are good friends. That's a very different role. Even though I remain his keyholder, for a moment I need to be “just” a girl he's hanging out with. 😊 Usually, after the session is over, I go around the cams and turn everything off, while Luke is where he was. If we happen to be nude we likely remain that way, so it doesn't feel like I am immediately “running” away. 😄 We then usually go sit together on the couch, or at the table with something like tea or lemonade, really anything goes. The idea is just to be comfy. And then we chat. I always want to know if it was pleasant and how much, or what was frustrating and how did he felt and perhaps is still feeling. The purpose isn't necessarily to have feedback to improve, but to know how my friend is feeling. Make him know that I care, because I do. So he can safely tell me everything and nothing gets bottled up. Of course, many sessions aren't that emotionally demanding, so we just chill. But I am talking about some that might be. Anyway, when there is some time to spare, we might go watch some show, or perhaps play a game, depending on the mood, still semi-clothed. Not sure if this would be the ideal case with romantically involved partners, as it might be too distracting, but as a part of friendly femdom dynamics, I think it's good to unwind and resume some activities that are just that, friendly. 😊 To remind ourselves why we are hanging out, besides the sex. That we are fun, we like to laugh, we like games and shows and we listen to each other... So yeah. That's our aftercare. If you have a relationship, yours is probably different, because no two people are the same... Though I think the differences might be more on the surface. Deep down I think, it doesn't matter if it's vanilla sex and cuddles, or more wild BDSM sessions, or a weird couple of friends that have a fetish in denial. 😅 Aftercare is about what connects us as humans, so we feel close, intimate, and safe, regardless of what our relationship label is.