Cheap Trick knows me well. I want to feel desired...craved...like you can't get enough of me. In fact, I think I might be a little high-maintenance in that department, because it feels like more of a NEED than a WANT for me. If I don't feel desired, I kind of inherently begin to lose interest.
Without that ingredient, sex becomes more of a 'scratching an itch' sort of thing (which really dulls the shared experience for me...and which I can easily just take care of independently) and less of an 'I-can't-fucking-wait-another-second-to-get-my-hands-and-mouth-and-body-on-you-I-want-to-devour-you' type of thing (which makes both the moment and life in general better IMO).
Have you been with other women that seem to make a similar connection between feeling desired and desiring?
*2 screengrabs from the vid I’m posting later today* @prescottfinn
So we got to bed around 3am Saturday night…ok, technically Sunday morning..then the hubs had band practice Sunday morning after which we ran a buuunch of errands and got him his new phone. By last night we were both pretty exhausted. When we got into bed, Prescott snuggled up to me with his head on my right titty. He just rested there lazily licking and suckling and fondling my nips while I rubbed and scratched his head (yes, the one on top of his body…not the one between his legs lol). It’s such a nice, cozy, sensual way to slowly do-ze off…
Which got me to wondering…what are some of the non-goal-oriented, semi-sexual self-soothing or partner-soothing habits you’ve engaged in over the years? It’s important to sometimes connect intimately WITHOUT the goal of either party cumming…and I’m not gonna lie…if you’re doing something sweet or sensual or even something simple that hasn’t occurred to us, we’re probably gonna have to give it a go in your honor! So tell me!
Is that you behind me? Maaann that would be so fuuuun, wouldn’t it? The funny thing is though, you don’t actually HAVE to fuck to have a blast. We have never played with the people we hung out with last weekend. But we have been laughing our asses off with them and just really enjoying being playful and silly together.
I mean, he and I have shared a peck in greeting or as we part ways. His wife has tongue kissed my hubs a few times…oh, and she’s given him a lap dance of sorts when a group of us were hanging out one night. But the thing we’ve enjoyed most about them is the flirty friendship. Me and the guy have been joking around that we’ll be each others ‘wing men’…I can be a pretty enthusiastic wing man, as you can probably imagine. Want me to be YOUR wingman?
Happy Monday my sexy friends! How was your weekend? We were out waaaayyy tooooo late dancing on Saturday night at the Hard Rock Casino with lifestyle friends and their family/friends. I had never been there, so when they invited us to ‘The Hard Rock’ I thought it was basically a large bar with a stage. I had no freakin idea how huge and amazing this place would be! Have you guys been to a Hard Rock Casino before?
I FINALLY convinced my hubby to upgrade his iPhone 7!!! Can you believe it, @kay-love-fantasy and @stixzadinia1?? His phone was super glitchy and we weren’t confident that the photos would transfer, so we moved them prior to purchasing the new phone. In doing so, I stumbled upon this pic from our December 2019 2-week vacation…the vacation where we first started looking into the lifestyle. Literally all we did that entire vacation was fuck, talk about fucking, and fuck some more. It was SUCH an exciting time filled with anticipation!
It’s Sunday! AKA: The final day of the QUICKIE CHALLENGE!! Comment on this post with a thumbs up if you completed the challenge…if ya haven’t completed it yet, what are you waiting for?? Do it!!!
To those of you who DID complete the challenge…I ABSOLUTELY LOOOOVE that you’re playing with me!! ♥️💋♥️💋♥️
Whatcha up to this Saturday night? Nuthin’? No biggie…here’s something for you to cum at…er, I mean look at…but hey, if you do happen to cum at it, I wouldn’t be disappointed to see it. 🤷♀️😈
I've been getting a lot of dm's from people curious about the ins-and-outs of getting started in the lifestyle. So I'm going to start posting more on how we prepared to enter the lifestyle… I really think that's a big part of why we've had such a good overall experience with it.
Are you considering entering the lifestyle? Do you have any questions, concerns or curiosities? DM me! If you're curious about it, chances are someone else is too! Maybe your DM will inspire a post!
And THIS was the outfit I had planned to change into that night….buuuuut I was so busy running around giving tours and trying to make sure we had found everyone we invited that I never actually changed. All of which I loved…but I love this outfit too!! And the only person who got to see in it in person was my hubs!! Ok, I admit, I did DM it to a couple of lifestyle friends we met on our cruises…I couldn’t help it, I had to share it with SOMEONE!! Lolol None of those people actually even know I'm on here. 🤫😉
As I’ve mentioned before, the night we met Kay and Stix, the hubs and I invited a bunch of random people we had dm’d with on our lifestyle apps but never actually met in person. Some of them were people we were potentially interested in. Others were people who had DM’d us about being new to the lifestyle and nervous about clubs, so we invited them to join us so they would feel like they were with a couple of familiar faces. We genuinely enjoy mentoring new couples in the lifestyle regardless of whether or not they are potential play partners for us. The great majority of the time lifestyle people are the nicest, most fun, caring and open-minded people around.
But I will say, it was NOT the wisest move to invite a bunch of people we had never met to a freakin Masquerade Ball. It’s hard enough to recognize faces from pics WITHOUT a mask on, let alone with their faces completely obstructed!! Lol. Live and learn, I guess!
I like to dress up...I bet that totally shocks you, right? Typically people wear something a bit trampy within the theme at sex club parties...and yes, I do that too. But most of the time when I arrive, I wear something sexy that would potentially draw some side-eyes at a typical bar, but wouldn't get me kicked out. Then about halfway through the night I change into some sort of lingerie-ish outfit that fits the theme. I've met a couple of other girls that do the same thing and I always end up liking their vibe. And I tend to introduce any new girl I me-et that I really like to the concept…because there really is something to the phrase, ‘the more, the merrier’.
Sometimes the hubbies will watch us change together, or wait outside the restroom for us to emerge and reveal our new barely-there-fits. Sometimes we'll just wander off and surprise them with our new outfits. Regardless, it's always lots of fun.
SO HERE'S MY CHALLENGE TO YOU... It's Wednesday...sometime before SUNDAY, I want each of you to have a quickie. I don't care if it's with someone else or with your own sexy self...my only request if it's a solo venture is that you share it with me...maybe a pic? a quick vid? even a story about what you were thinking about when you came will do! Doctor's orders!!
...and don't even get me started on the health benefits of cum 🥵👅
If you answered 'yes' to ANY of those questions, you are in need of a regular dose of quickies...I mean, any sex (including self-stimulation) will do, but there's really no excuse NOT to indulge when it comes to a quickie! You can pull that off on a restroom break, regardless of whether or not you're partnered.
So you aren’t stressed huh? Well can you answer ‘yes’ to any of THESE questions…
Do you need to lower your baseline blo-od pressure levels? Are you trying avoid getting sick? Do you want to improve your circulation? Do you want to improve cardiovascular health? Or bladder control? Are you trying to manage chronic pain? Do you want to strengthen your relationship? Are you struggling to sleep well? Are you looking to improve muscle strength? What about your libido? Do you want to strengthen your desire for intimacy? Do you (or your female partner if you're a man) want to manage men-strual cramps?
Ok boys and girls, I NEED YOUR HELP! I'm going to try out a new payment model and I want to know how you like it! Beginning today and moving forward there will be no PPV on CURRENT CONTENT during the duration of your subscription. This does not include any of the vids I've posted thus far. That just wouldn't be fair to all of the people who have paid for them.
So here's how it will work. Every single thing that I post MOVING FORWARD during the duration of your subscription will be FREE to you. I will continue to post a preview pic or clip and request a tip on the post BUT the tip will only apply to individuals who subscribe AFTER that point. Everyone who is currently subscribed when I make each post will receive a DM with the video in it immediately following my post. Make sense?
TIP THIS POST $5 and I’ll send you 3 CLIPS from our private collection that were not filmed with the intention of being shared on OF. So you’ll get a little peek into how we interact together when we’re just being us without any thoughts about a potential audience.
We had spent the evening at a sex club and while we didn’t me-et anyone with whom we wanted to play, we were both horny AF. So we decided to do what any decent human beings would do 😁 - we took the playroom for a test drive. For some reason, spur of the moment, I decided I wanted to see @prescottfinn fucking me, so I reached over and hit record on my phone which I had thrown on the bed next to us.
I’m generally a very flirty, sex-obsessed person…but throw a little alcohol in the mix and it feels like my heart’s gonna explode with love and appreciation for all the things I typically appreciate and find beautiful. So most of this footage was taken just after we fucked because I just couldn’t believe, in that moment, how lucky I was to get to fuck this man, and play with his cock, and devour his delicious cum, any time I wanted.
Also, I don’t think all guys have considered the fact that we ladies don’t JUST love cock when it’s rock hard…we ALSO love pre and post coital semi-erections…and cute softies too. Yes, I said cute.
42 SECONDS: doggie (in sexy outfits…sometimes there’s no time for clothing removal) - I clicked the record button as he was fucking me, just so you have an idea of the angle. All the beds at that sex club were covered in plastic sheets which were then covered by cloth sheets, so I was sliding all over the place. He kept having to pull me back.
56 SECONDS: post-coital moany cock worship…from my POV
3 MINUTES, 7 SECONDS: post-coital cock sucking & cock adoration from his POV
SWINGER ETIQUETTE TIP #3 If you're open to playing with just half of a couple, confirm for yourself that the other half knows and is down with it BEFORE you agree to the playdate. This means actually talking to the other half. DO NOT rely solely on the report of the person who wants to play solo. DO NOT rely solely on a DM or text that could have easily been sent by the party that wants to play solo. I know, I know, these tips/rules aren’t exactly sexy…but it is so worth it follow them.
BACKSTORY Remember the story from SWINGER ETIQUETTE TIP #1? ...The one where the woman had never seen her hubby fucking someone else and was clearly upset about it when it happened...
Well, later that same week, Jack and Jill received a message from the male half of the couple inviting them for a little fuckfest with just him. Jack and Jill said they decided not to ask if the guy's wife knew about it 'because it wasn't their problem'. But here's the thing, if you're a decent human being, it actually IS your problem too.
Be a good person. Do your own due diligence to ensure that your actions won't hurt anyone else. The lifestyle can be emotionally tricky and sometimes insecurities are gonna surface in the best of circumstances with the best of people. If you want to enjoy this crazy sexy lifestyle long-term, you need to be a person others can trust and surround yourself with people you can trust. Anyone who is willing to sneak around behind their SO's back will. not. play. with. us. EVER.
Are you a fellow lifestyler? What are your thoughts?
And yes, in case you’re wondering, that IS a diamond studded flogger sitting there next to my purse on the counter. And I’m not above using it on you if you break my swinger etiquette rules 😈😘
SWINGER ETIQUETTE TIP #2 Straight and Bi ladies with male primary partners...pay attention to your man! Your partner is your top priority no matter who you are playing with and no matter how much fun you're having with anyone else.
I alluded to this in my last post, but wanted to give it some solo attention with a TIP of it's own because it's incredibly important! Here's the thing, erectile capacity in the lifestyle can be quite precarious and ever changing throughout the experience. Much more so than in a vanilla relationship. It's the same for us ladies but we're freakin lucky...our bodies don't shout to anyone within visual range that they are betraying us.
In my last story, Jill DID notice Jack's lack of a boner but did nothing to support him. Unless your hubs has a fetish for such things and the other play partners know that and are down with it...that's another dick move.
Otherwise, navigate your way over to your hubs, make out with him, fondle his cock lovingly, suck him off for a while, talk dirty to him, fuck him. It is so incredibly easy to do this in a sensual way that DOESN'T draw attention to his struggles and allows his mind to release the panic that is dwelling there. And his surge of appreciation for your love and attention will naturally remind his cock of how much fun he's having.
You don’t have to completely separate yourself from the other play partners to do this, either. But pay attention, read his response to whatever you do, and adjust as necessary.
PS - We took this pic in the restroom at a local sex club…bonus points to anyone who can name the club based upon this pic alone…GO!
SWINGER ETIQUETTE TIP #1 If any one of the people playing seems upset or unhappy, it's time to stop and reassess. Period. And no, you don't get a free pass on responsibility for this one just because you don't happen to be the one that's upset!
BACKSTORY A swinger couple we know (we'll call them Jack & Jill - obviously fake names) went on a playdate with a couple they met online. The wife of the other couple had never seen her hubby fuck someone else and was a bit timid about the whole idea of it. However, she was willing to give it a shot. All of this was communicated among the four of them prior to the start of the play sesh.
Fast forward to the play sesh...Jill started fucking the other woman's hubs...but Jack was nervous and couldn't get it up (that happens in the lifestyle, it's really no biggie...more on that in an upcoming SWINGER ETIQUETTE post). Jack told us that the other woman didn't seem interested in playing with him, which may have been a contributing factor for his deflated manhood.
So both Jack and the other woman were sitting there watching Jill fuck the other dude. Both Jack and Jill shared with us that the woman seemed upset and uncomfortable as she watched. They wondered if she might cry. But Jill continued to fuck this woman's husband despite noticing the other woman's obvious discomfort...not to mention her hubby's struggles with the equipment.
I think that’s the best I can do at describing the range of what orgasms can feel like for me…I mean, there’s the occasion dud. The ones where I’m like, WAIT??? THAT’S IT?? But that rarely happens. Oh, and my orgasms often seem to last somewhere around a minute, maybe. Prescott…chime in if you think I’m off on that. You’re way more in tune with the numbers (in terms of how long and how many orgasms) than I could ever be in the moment! lol
Those fast and easy orgasms don’t last as long and they aren’t as intense but they often get me primed for more explosive orgasms to come. With the REALLY intense orgasms, it’s not just my pussy that’s pulsing. I feel the pulsing throughout my whole body as it shutters…I feel a literal throbbing sensation in my clit as it recovers from the highest point of the orgasm, like an intense heart beat or spasm. My cheeks get hot, I can feel my eyes glaze over, I get a really warm fuzzy feeling throughout my body…kinda like that feeling you get after the first few sips of a really good whiskey…but waaaaayyyy better.
But not all orgasms are like that. If I’m super horny…maybe we’ve been touchy-feely and flirty all day…or we’ve been anticipating getting together with @kay-love-fantasy & @stixzadinia1 - anything like that, I can be embarrassingly trigger happy. It’s like 0 – 60 in barely any time. And I’m usually not in a spot to be mindful of edging if I’ve been anticipating it for a while, so I just let it go. I will say, these orgasms feel amazing (I mean, they ARE orgasms after all) but the pulsing isn’t as intense, what I notice more is the tingly sensation…it’s like my muscles are still getting warmed up. After one of these orgasms, my body tends to go into I-gotta-get-some-more-I-neeeeeeeeed-it mode.
